They had unreal expectations about love, says Evans. He says their relationship soon unraveled over petty power struggles. Years later, it had gotten to the point where they barely acknowledged each other, he says. Then, one day while taking a shower , Evans broke down and cried. At first, he says, his wife was hesitant to believe he was sincere, so she tested him.
She told him to clean the kitchen , which he did. Though it would be a big job and he had a busy day ahead, he did as she asked. But Evans persisted.
We have been married for over 18yrs. Kids are grown and out of the house. Lately he has been cranky and distant. But to him everything is fine as long as I leave him alone. When I do try to talk to him about things that I am feeling he shuts down gets highly irritated and defensive. He sits in his chair for hours at a time. Watching television while I pour my heart out to him. He will get up and go to bed without a word spoken.
He is a rock. The question is. Do I continue to beat my head on this rock?
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Please help. No need to bang your head… I just loaded a new video which explains how I address marriage in our course. Why not take a look? I been married 11yrs and we been together for 14 years altogether. Recent I was calling and texting another lady never tried to sleep with her nor did I say something out the norm just being a friend. My wife found out she asked me who it was I lied about the name, and I also deleted the text message.
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But I recovered the messages and showed them to her. She wants a divorce. Dear Cedric What did you expect?? We have not found a way to convince women to stay no matter what.
Women, once they make up their mind to leave always do. Its so good that you are not just letting your marriage slip into oblivion. We have 4 children and my husband is giving up on our marriage.
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He thinks that is the only way to fix this. Dear Vanessa Your situation is very tough because you have been apart so long. If he is in the home you do have an opportunity to reconnect. But its like starting from scratch. I would recommend you see this as an opportunity. Perhaps you can win his love. My husband has cheated many times and is an addict. We have children and I cant give up. He is sick and want my marriage to work.
I filed for divorce but stopped it in hopes for change and a couple months later I moved out but we are still trying. We used to fight all the time. We talk more now. However, he says this is all alot because he is moving back in but wont explain what alot is. I am trying to stay positive and be there when he is ready to talk and not be pushy. He wants to hang out with friends by himself alot and i dont feel like that is a good idea.
I think we should be spending time together to figure this out and fix our marriage.
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Is it to late? If he is addicted to substance, whether its drugs legit or not or alcohol, his heart is closed off AND the substances cause a cycle of degeneration that cannot be stopped until the addicted one has hit their bottom, and stops… it happens all the time. If you are saying he is addicted to his habits, that is not the same. He can be helped by you being more loving and connected yourself. My name is Breanna. My husband and I have been married 4 years now. I just caught him paying prostitues for sex in crack motels.
I have caught him cheating endless times and have even left him an gotten my own home. Only to have him crying for me back doing all the right things making me believe he has changed and BAM! I catch him again. We are together all the time and have what I thought an amazing relationship. My therapist believes from the things I have told and showed her that he has a sex addiction problem.
This time I found videos, emails, hotel receipts, text messages, everything. Yet he still denies black and white proof to my face as If i am stupid. So why apologize if he is saying he did not do it? I am tired of feeling as if I am the problem when I clearly am not.
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I feel I can never compete with someone with a sex addiction problem. We have sex literally almost everyday, yet he still cheats.
The question is: “Can you really fix a broken marriage?”
What can I do? Is this fixable? Should I run and never look back? I am at my whits end. You are going through Hell! The problem is not in the details, or you having sex with him, or him being addicted to sex. You cannot be addicted to sex, just be habituated, which is NOT the same thing. The REAL problem, as there is only one, is that the two of you have no idea how to be married.
What you must do now is study marriage, how your mind works, and all the other aspects of marriage so you can make it happen. Have you at least gotten one of my books? But what you really need is the course… write to our counselors for more direction, but no, you should not give up. I left my husband almost 3 years ago because of his affair with his assistant. He tried to everything to win me back and promised that he already stopped. We had 2 children one is 11 yrs now and the other one is 4 years. I accepted him. And now after almost 3 years being happy together i saw a picture of him and the other woman along with a 7mos.
Its her baptismal and my husband was there seems very happy in the pictures. He even denies a communication with the other woman despite in the picture shes hugging and holding him…i see from my husband face how happy he is and how comfortable he is with her and her family. Now im in so much depression and i dont know what to do.
Even my kids are affected. I wanted to run away everytime and lea ve him so that they can both be happy.